Helping you find
Understand the past, change the pattern.
Therapy for people who feel emotionally stuck, disconnected, and caught in patterns they don’t quite understand.
Many of the struggles we experience in adulthood (be it anxiety, relationship difficulties, emotional disconnection, self-criticism, fear of abandonment, burnout, etc) do not appear out of nowhere. They often make sense in the context of our earlier relationships. How were we influenced by our parents’ relationship with each other? What about their relationships with us? These can play a lot into how we navigate conflict and confrontation, how we accept (or deny) intimacy, how much or how little we “let someone in.”
I help people make sense of patterns under what they experience so they can relate to themselves and to others differently. I want people to feel like they’re thriving and present in their relationships, rather than feeling weighted down by the emotional baggage they’ve carried for so long.
Kind words from partners
"It is with immense honour and genuine enthusiasm that I recommend Ben to you. Working alongside Ben has been both inspirational and enlightening. Observing his ability to utilise his life experiences and profound knowledge to challenge himself and be the best he can be has pushed me to do the same, helping me to create change and discover my own potential. Thank you Ben!"
Why you won't see client testimonials here
I don’t include client testimonials on this site — not because I don’t value feedback, but because I work within ethical guidelines that protect your privacy, dignity, and autonomy.
Therapy is deeply personal. Asking clients to publicly endorse their experience can risk blurring boundaries and unintentionally create pressure, even when well-intentioned.
Choosing not to include testimonials is a deliberate part of how I protect the confidentiality and integrity at the heart of this work.
Support for Life’s Challenges
Therapy is not about being “fixed” or being told what to do.
It’s a space to better understand yourself: your emotional world, your patterns, your relationships, and the ways in which your past shape your present.
Together, we explore not only what is happening, but why it keeps happening. This is a place of curiosity, not judgement.
Anxiety and Overthinking
Difficulty Trusting Yourself or Others
Guilt and Shame
Low Self-Esteem, Self-Criticism
Childhood Trauma or Difficult Family Dynamics
People-Pleasing, Difficulty Setting Boundaries
Persistently Feeling Low
Fear of Rejection or Abandonment
Conflict Avoidance
Repeating Relationship Patterns
Who I Work With
I work with adults who are trying to make sense of why they think, feel, and relate the way they do.
Many of my clients are thoughtful, capable, and highly self-aware in some areas of life, yet internally feel anxious, emotionally stuck, disconnected, and caught in patterns that they can’t seem to break.
Some struggle in romantic relationships, and others notice difficulties showing up at work, in friendships, in family, or in their relationship with themselves. Oftentimes they have spent years trying to manage their anxiety, overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, self-criticism, or fear of rejection without fully understanding where these patterns come from.
These problems don’t begin in adulthood, and together we can begin exploring the deeper emotional logic underneath these experiences.
Over time, therapy can help clients:
• feel less emotionally reactive and overwhelmed
• develop healthier boundaries, mitigate feelings of excessive guilt
• understand their triggers and what to do about them
• develop a better relationship with self, fostering greater self-compassion rather than self-criticism
• communicate more openly and honestly
• feel more secure, close, and connected with themselves and others
The therapy I provide can help you understand yourself more deeply, relate more authentically, and move through life with greater clarity and emotional freedom. We’re wired for connection. Like my clients, you deserve to feel fulfilled in your relationships, and to be in partnership without overwhelming anxiety and worry. Feeling seen, secure, and safe is not out of your reach, and I would love to help you get there.
Where To Find Me
I offer therapy both online and face-to-face from my private counselling office in the heart of King’s Lynn, Norfolk. Online sessions are available throughout the UK and internationally via Zoom.
For clients who prefer face-to-face sessions, the office is easily accessible, with nearby parking and the train station just a short walk away.
The practice is based within Adorn Tattoo Collective, a friendly and welcoming creative space. After checking in at the reception, you’ll be shown to a dedicated private therapy room where sessions take place in a confidential and comfortable setting.
Whether we meet online or in person, my aim is to create a space where you can slow down, speak openly, and explore what feels important to you without judgement or pressure.
My Expertise
Relationship Patterns & Attachment
Many people come to therapy noticing emotional and relational patterns repeating across relationships, friendships, family dynamics, at work, or all four. Therapy can help you understand why things can feel so emotionally charged, why closeness can feel difficult, and why we feel stuck in the same loops despite wanting something different:
“I keep repeating the same pattern with all my relationships..”
“I overthink every interaction..”
“I need constant reassurance..”
“I push people away when they get close..”
Childhood & Family Dynamics
How we were raised can shape the way we think, feel, relate, protect ourselves, and move throughout the world. The roles we learned in childhood (be it the peacemaker, achiever, “the responsible one,” etc.) can often influence our relationships, self-worth, boundaries, emotions, and sense of identity. Therapy can help you understand how early family dynamics and attachment experiences shape our present, so that old patterns no longer dictate how you live, relate, and see yourself today:
“I feel responsible for everyone..”
“I struggle to believe people genuinely care about me..”
“I avoid conflict even when something hurts me..”
“I feel guilty for setting boundaries..”
“I’m successful on paper but internally I still feel like I’m not good enough..”
“I learned to keep everything to myself..”
“I don’t know who I am outside of taking care of other people..”
Addiction & Recovery
Whether it’s substances, pornography, sex, gambling, scrolling, or other repetitive patterns, therapy is not about shame or punishment; but rather about understanding the emotional need, wounds, and protective strategies underneath the behaviour itself. Together, we can explore not only what the behaviour is doing to you, but what it may also be doing for you:
“I don’t even enjoy it anymore, but I still can’t stop..”
“It’s the only thing that switches my brain off..”
“Nobody really knows how bad it’s gotten..”
“I feel like I’m living a double life..”
Grief & Loss
Your world can suddenly feel unfamiliar when someone you love dies. Death affects not just our emotions, but can alter our sense of identity, safety, and connection. Some losses feel uncomplicated in their love but devastating in their absence, whilst others can be more conflicted — moments where grief is tangled with regret, difficult family histories, unresolved relationships, and things left unsaid. Therapy offers a space to grieve ad process honestly and at your own pace, without pressure to “move on” or “stay strong”:
“I don’t know who I am without them..”
“I thought I’d be coping better than this..”
“I feel guilty for things I said // never said..”
“I thought I’d feel sadness, but mostly I feel anger..”
“I feel relieved that they’re gone, and I’m ashamed for feeling that way..”
“Their death brought up things from my childhood that I thought I’d dealt with..”
Couples Therapy
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they’ve suddenly stopped loving one another. More often, they arrive feeling stuck in a painful pattern that they’re unsure of how to escape: the same arguments, feeling disconnected, walking on eggshells, emotionally shutting down, building resentment, etc. Together, we can “turn down the heat” and better understand what’s beneath the conflict, distance, and defensiveness. You’ll learn what creates a greater sense of honesty, emotional safety, and connection.
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is “right” or “wrong.” It is about slowing down the patterns between you — the misunderstandings, protections, resentments, fears, and unmet needs that keep pulling you apart — so that both people can feel more understood and emotionally connected. For some couples, this leads to repair and reconnection. For others, it helps them better understand themselves and what they truly want from relationships.
“We keep having the same argument..”
“Nothing I do feels good enough for them..”
“I don’t know how to trust them after what happened..”
“Part of me wants to leave, and part of me desperately wants this to work..”
Popular FAQs
What happens in the first session?
Once a couple of forms are signed and submitted pre-session, it’s about getting to know each other. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here, what you’re hoping for, and what therapy could look like with me. No pressure to go deep straight away. We will go at your pace.
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
You don’t need a diagnosis or a dramatic story. If something feels stuck, heavy, or hard to name, therapy can help. You don’t need to be falling apart to want something to shift.
Do you offer a free consultation?
Yes, video chat that can go up to 50 minutes — for you to ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and decide if I am the right fit for you.
Do you offer a sliding scale?
I do! I keep a limited number of lower-cost spaces for clients on low income or in financially tricky circumstances. Feel free to ask — there is no need to justify your situation.
What if I cry or go blank?
That’s not a therapy problem, that’s therapy working. Whether you need to cry, vent, go quiet, or “fall apart”… it’s all welcome here.
Are sessions confidential?
Yes. What we talk about stays between us. Sessions are confidential and handled in line with GDPR. I’m registered with the ICO, and your information is stored securely.
The only exceptions are if there is an intent to harm youself or others, if there is suspected abuse of a child or a dependent adult, or if you want me to release information to someone else i.e. GP/doctor (this can be handled by a release of information form).
In whatever case, I’d always aim to speak to you first.
How are sessions structured?
Sessions are 50 minutes (unless otherwise specified), held online via a secure, encrypted platform (Zoom). You'll receive a link automatically when you book.
Therapy with me is conversational and collaborative, not a script to follow. I integrate structured approaches when helpful (like goal-setting or values work), but I also leave room for reflection, insight, and the unexpected. Some sessions may feel focused and practical, others may go deeper — both are part of the process.
How do cancellations work?
I ask for at least 24 hours’ notice to cancel or reschedule. Less than that, the full session fee may apply unless, of course, it’s a genuine emergency.
My email is always open to have a discussion if a late cancellation or a reschedule comes up.
What if I dont "click" with you?
You won’t offend me. If it doesn’t feel right, I’ll support you in finding someone who does feel like the right therapist for you.
What if I say something weird or dark?
If it crossed your mind, it can cross into the room. Therapy’s where the unfiltered stuff is supposed to go.
Is this like BetterHelp/Regain?
Platforms like BetterHelp can be a great entry point, but they often come with rigid structures e.g. weekly subscription fees, cancellation forms, back-and-forth with admin, or the inability to slowly phase therapy out when you’re ready.
I work at a pace that suits you. Sessions can be regular, flexible, or tapered off as life shifts — because therapy should change when you do.
